JulieDoss

My experiences before Judge Julie Doss were some of the most difficult and discouraging of the entire case. As the litigation continued, I often left hearings feeling as though decisions had already been made before all of the evidence had been fully considered. Whether that perception was accurate or not, it was my experience. There were times when comments made from the bench left me believing that conclusions had been reached before testimony was completed and before all of the information had been presented. One issue that stands out involved relocation. By that point, years of litigation had created enormous financial strain. I had lost my job, exhausted my savings, and reached a point where remaining in Oklahoma was no longer financially sustainable. I eventually accepted employment in Florida because I needed a way to support myself and continue supporting my children. From my perspective, the relocation issue often felt decided before the evidence was fully heard. I struggled to understand how the court could weigh the benefits of remaining in Oklahoma against the realities that had forced me to leave without fully considering the circumstances that brought us there in the first place. What made that particularly difficult was the fact that concerns regarding abuse had already been raised and acknowledged throughout the case. The court was not evaluating a family with no history of conflict or allegations. There had been disclosures, counseling, investigations, professional involvement, and years of litigation surrounding concerns for the children's well-being. Yet despite all of that, the ultimate decision was that the children would remain in Oklahoma with their father rather than relocate to Florida with me. I recognize that judges are required to consider many factors when making decisions involving children. My struggle has never been with the existence of difficult decisions. My struggle has been with the feeling that critical pieces of information were repeatedly overshadowed by other considerations. Again and again, I felt as though the full context of our family's experience was being reduced to a much narrower set of facts. Some of the most painful moments occurred during hearings themselves. There were times when I felt reprimanded, criticized, or spoken to in ways that left me feeling unheard rather than understood. Whether discussing relocation, parenting decisions, or concerns raised by the children, I often walked away believing that my perspective had been dismissed before it had been fully considered. By the end of the process, I found myself asking a question that had followed me through nearly every stage of the case: How much evidence is enough? If disclosures, counseling records, video evidence, professional involvement, and years of documented concerns were not enough to substantially alter the outcome, I no longer knew what would be.

our judges in our court system seem bias and are unfamiliar with abuse and how to deal appropriate action. Everyone is just tryin to make a buck.

Ruled I was neglectful with my children based on the GAL’s recommendation.

Ignored evidence, delayed reunification with my children